Cosmetics – Are you For Or Against – Do They Make You Beautiful? by guest blogger Cher Fauvel
My good friend Cher Fauvel has written this great article which I’m delighted to share with you all …
Cosmetics – Are you For Or Against – Do They Make You Beautiful? by Cher Fauvel

How much of your hard earned money do you spend on cosmetics? What do they do for you?
Society has given us some strange messages about beauty – we are bombarded with skinny models suggesting to us that if we can’t look like them, then we are not beautiful, their diet is none existent and if they have any ‘flaws’ they must be corrected, nose jobs, boob jobs – wow – is this beauty?
It is suggested that if we are not like them, then we are inferior! Next we are manipulated into spending a fortune on the latest beauty products with the false endorsement of these models! They get paid big bucks to tell us they use them!
What A Load OF Rubbish!
To become as thin as these models is neither beautiful or healthy! And the extortionately priced beauty products are in no way going to improve anything!
Let’s be honest here, we can enhance our beauty, but we are neither going to get it out of a bottle or obtain it by becoming anorexic! Does anyone really think this is beauty? Unfortunately our young are brainwashed and this is worrying.
Two Types of People.
Now we have two types of people – the first type will be totally obsessed with what she see’s in the tabloids and will buy everything she can, starve herself half to death and, will think of nothing but her self image. The second type – she gave up long ago, either overwhelmed by the true fact that she will never reach this perfection or just simply cannot bothered and left with feeling failure and low self esteem!
Don’t You Think This Is Just Horrible?
Firstly that old saying – ‘beauty comes from within’ – is true, but look deeper into this expression, beauty comes from all of you!
Your beauty and how attractive you are is important, of course it is, unfortunately we are judged on first impressions, but more importantly than that – to look good, makes us feel good and grow in confidence and self esteem.
But How Would You Define Beauty.
Well let us look at the word define in another way – YOU define your beauty, yes you! We are all beautiful and we define our beauty by living authentically.
Let me explain – we must learn to live holistically instead of separating pieces of our selves and thinking we deal with all parts in different way’s. Our body, beauty etc, is not just a bag that carries us around all day, it is a living thing that we are part of. Our mind, body and soul are all one and we must treat it, and live it as one!
Here’s the thing, when you learn to live as one being, you get to know who you really are, and you take care of yourself holistically, then you find your beauty and it shines from the inside out!
Living In Awareness.
Take care of your self from the inside out, be aware of the food you give your body – be aware of the thoughts you think – be aware of your mind, body and soul as one- tune into your self and learn about your needs. Learn relaxation techniques and how to breath properly, you will be amazed at what this does for your skin! Be authentic, be you.
The type of food you put in your body and the way you think and feel about yourself results in the quality of your health and your skin, your beauty!
When you get to know YOU – from the inside out, you will learn to love yourself and you are beautiful from the inside out!
Hey, enjoy the cosmetics – but never think you need them !
Cher Fauvèl
http://mindandbodyinhealth.com/optimal-health/
Humble Pie – Learning From Mistakes
Allow me to introduce you to my great friend, Cher Fauvel who has a site well worth visiting over at http://www.mindandbodyinhealth.com. Cher has kindly allowed me to publish this article, so I’m delighted to welcome her as a Guest Blogger here at lifeisajourney!
“Humble Pie – Learning From Mistakes by Cher Fauvel
Well this is tough for me – I need to have a serious word with myself! I talk non stop about how we attract things into our lives, and how to stay open to receive and get rid of the rubbish, be clear about what we want! – Wow, today I eat Humble pie and it sticks in my throat!
I am truly passionate about anything to do with our energy and how it all works with our life, the world we live in, and the life we want to create. How we need to keep things flowing and free. I have worked with energy for many years now, and if you know my writing you will know I go on endlessly about it.
Deep Sigh!
Well I have been struggling with a certain element of my business lately, and for the life of me I could not figure out what to do about it, this made me feel like a fraud, why could I not get this right? I knew it was not working but did not know how to put it right. And all sorts of things were appearing to make me feel more confused, what on earth was I missing? What is going on?
Oh well I have to laugh now, the answer is right in front of my face, as always! See I go around clearing energy all over the place and work on my own energy constantly, but the big thing I missed? My computer!
What A Mess!
Our computer is this nice little neat thing that holds an army of junk! Mine in particular, if I see something I like I save it for later, of course later never comes and the files are overflowing, by the time I come to find them again, I don’t know why on earth I saved it? I have a ton of stuff I don’t need or want and some don’t even open, they have been there so long and goodness knows what happened to them?
I wasted time looking for something that I knew I had somewhere, but could not find it, it was buried under all the rubbish!
All of a sudden the light came on! No wonder I am confused and overwhelmed, I need to listen to my own ramblings, there is an area which I forgot!
Clarity
You see we have to be 100% clear on what we want, what we expect and what we put out. If we are in a muddle, then how can we get a clear message across? How does anyone get what we are talking about? And the universe cannot serve us when we are confused, how the heck is it going to work us out?
Blank Canvas
So now I have eaten my humble pie (smile), This is what I do. I delete the mess and only keep that which I need, gosh that feels good! I imagine in my mind, a huge blank canvas, on this canvas I write in big letters clearly the things that I want, I can read it, and the universe can read it. Now I take the steps necessary to make this happen. Everything is in balance and clear for all to see. I am now able to present myself clearly and give clear direction.
This is great, I am excited that I have found where the block was, my mind is clear and my path is clear.
Time for me to PRACTISE WHAT I PREACH ?”
“The Power”
I love Rhonda Byrne’s “The Secret” - it’s one of the books I keep by the side of my bed and dip into frequently.
“The Power” is Rhonda’s latest publication and delves further into the Law of Attraction and the extraordinary power we all possess which can change our lives if we desire it. I got my copy this week and am loving it.
Positivity, the right mindset and focusing on our desires are the keys to happiness and success ….
This has to be one of my favourite pieces of music …..
.. love the films, love the music – and Johnny and Orlando aren’t too bad either ….
So How Do You Feel When Your Daughter Marries
The months of preparations are finally over; the excitement has been building up over the course of the past few days – and then suddenly, the moment has arrived. The day your eldest daughter is marrying the love of her life.
So, what did I feel when our daughter married? An overwhelming surge of love and happiness for the couple, who so clearly are meant to be together. They’ve been with each other for nearly eleven years, they’ve had their ups and downs but always their love for one another has shone through.
My daughter is my best friend and together with my husband, we have watched her grow up into a beautiful, confident, hard-working young woman who has never let the trials and tribulations that life has thrown at her get her down. Being with her as she prepared for her wedding made me realise just how proud I am of her and all she has achieved.
Watching her father’s face when he first saw her in her dress is a moment I will treasure for the rest of my life. They say that fathers have a special bond with their daughters and both ours certainly have. The look of love and pride on my husband’s face illuminated the room.
Escorting our daughter down to her future husband was one of the proudest moments of his life – and looking at the expression on our about-to-become son-in-law as they entered was enough to reduce us females to tears. With eyes only for her and with the biggest smile on his face, he encompassed our daughter with love.
So, what did I feel when our daughter married? I know I spent the day smiling non-stop; I can’t recall a time when there was so much happiness encapsulated in one place. Our son-in-law has been like a son to us for many years; making if official was just the icing on the wedding cake!
All too soon, the day is over and all we have left are memories – but oh, such memories ….
Swordfish Shenanigans Part Three
Things ticked over at the Swordfish as they always had done. There were other incidents of people hearing their names called out but no-one around and many occasions when the manhole cover was “walked” upon by unseen feet.
Sue, the landlady, casually threw into the conversation one day that she had been awoken late one night in their apartment above the pub to find an old lady standing in the corner of the room. No sooner had Sue sat up and switched on the light than the apparition disappeared. Apparently, this lady turned up on more than one occasion, giving Sue cause to have a few sleepless nights. No-one knew who she was or what connection she had with the pub.
Being close to Portsmouth, there were inevitably links with the Royal Navy as well as the Royal Air Force and hanging at the bottom of the stairs leading to the upstairs function room (the same stairs where I had heard the loud footsteps) was an old oil painting of Lord Nelson. Now this painting was extremely eerie, no-one liked it nor could anyone put their finger on why not! It was mainly the eyes – they stared out from the picture and no matter which way you went, they stared straight at you. They made you feel extremely uncomfortable and many a time we longed to take it off the wall but there was a tale attached to the painting, that it shouldn’t be removed from the wall or ill luck would befall you. Who knows where this tale began or by whom, but needless to say, the painting stayed put until the day the pub closed. Even when the lights were out, those eyes still stared right out of the frame into your soul …
One of the saddest events which took place at the pub was the death of our young chef. In her 30′s, she had been very ill and finally passed away late one summer. My husband and I had known her for quite a while and we were actually abroad when Sue phoned us to let us know about her death. The chef, who I’ll call Mandy, had worked at The Swordfish for many years and on the day of her funeral, every single member of staff turned out to say their goodbyes to her. Before we all left for the crematorium, we held a private ceremony around one of the huge pine trees which stood in the pub grounds, overlooking the beach. Each of us had written a note to Mandy and tied it to a single white rosebud. Stepping up to the tree, we each then placed the flower around the trunk before Alan said a few very emotional words. For some of the very young members of staff, this was their first experience of death and they were clearly upset and had to be comforted throughout the day.
The cremation over, we all returned to the pub for the wake and spent the rest of the afternoon reminiscing about Mandy before the pub was opened again for the evening trade. Needless to say, everyone’s spirits were extremely low but the public had to be catered for, so we went into autopilot.
A few days’ later, my husband was helping Alan out in the bar; he walked past the infamous stairs and directly below the painting of Nelson, he saw Mandy sat, in her chef’s get-up of checked trousers and lime green tunic and hat, which she loved. She had often sat on that very spot during her breaks – she had no ruck with the tales about the painting! Before he even had time to take in what he was seeing, he called out “Morning Mandy!” then realised what was happening. Turning, she had gone but for the rest of the day, the atmosphere was different in the dining/kitchen area – it had lightened and you could sense that something special had taken place there. My husband and Mandy had got on well – she could be a typical chef when she wanted and could be very cutting when under stress but hubby could always make her laugh. For the rest of that day, staff members kept hovering around the bottom of the stairs, just hoping that their friend would make another appearance but to no avail.
Some months’ later, the pub was sold – the land on which it stood was prime development land, ripe for new housing as is the way. That meant, of course, that everyone was made redundant. It was an upsetting time, not just for the fact that we no longer had jobs but because there was such a family atmosphere there; people had worked together for many years, strong friendships had been forged. My husband I had become very close to Alan and Sue and we had gone to Tenerife every November with them to relax before the punishing December schedule of Christmas functions began. Clearing out the pub was a major event, especially as it was also a home but eventually it was done and dusted. The doors were locked for the last time and we said goodbye to a huge part of our lives. Each member of staff took some small momento of the old place; mine, a piece of stained glass from inside the bar is displayed in our conservatory and my husband’s, a Naval plaque, is in his office. Looking at these reminds us of the great times we shared with our friends and colleagues, times which can never be duplicated.
Not a month later, the pub caught fire and burnt almost to the ground. Arson was suspected but could never be proved. The remains of the building were demolished over the course of the summer and new, expensive apartments were built where once we had enjoyed a happy working environment. Srangley enough, many of the trees which grew around the pub were cut down – but Mandy’s tree, as it came to be known to us all, still remains untouched today,exactly as it was.
Not much is known about the history of The Swordfish before it was a pub. Apparently, it was once used for recuperating RAF service men (hence the ghostly visitor we saw in the bar), it was an hotel and then the pub. Trying to source information on its history has been difficult to say the least and certainly no photographs have come to light that I can lay my hands on.
As I said before, the land was sold off and numerous expensive apartments built on the site. Those of us who still remember the old days of The Swordfish’s glory can’t help wondering whether the inhabitants of those luxury residences hear or see things which may cause their hearts to beat a little faster. After all, just because you demolish bricks and mortar, doesn’t mean you destroy the living entities which chose to make The Swordfish their home …..
Swordfish Shenanigans Part Two
It was never quiet down at The Swordfish. As one of the busiest local pubs, it was always humming; on hot days, the queues for food and drink would be right through the doors, keeping us staff constantly on our toes and the winter months would see it filled with people keeping out the cold with a drink and meal. You’d somehow think that when the pub was closed, things would quieten down a little; well, not always …..
Strange things continued to happen. One of two younger members of staff had reported hearing their names called out but on investigation, finding that no-one was around. One particular lunch-time, I was making final preparations in the dining area before opening, when, right in my ear, I heard my name called. Turning to give my colleague what-for for making me jump, I realised that I was totally alone. A similar thing happened when I was out in one of the large walk-in freezers right at the back of the kitchens. Someone or something called out to me but once again, there was no-one around but me.
Did this freak me out? A little but I was always more fascinated with the fact that there was definitely something going on which we couldn’t fully comprehend. The more things that occurred, the more exciting it became.
One of the strangest events happened late one evening, after a function. This time, there were five of us who experienced one of the oddest nights of my life. It was a tradition with the landlord and landlady, (who I’ll call Alan and Sue, two of our best friends) that they always bought their staff drinks at the end of each function, as well as hot meals during the day. Having worked from around 10.00 am until around 2.00 am several times a week, it was their way of saying thank you for the hard work put in.
On this particular evening, during the summer, we had finished around 1.00 am and, totally exhausted, sat down for our drinks. Present were myself, my husband, the landlord and landlady and our daughter’s future mother-in-law, (we’ll call her Jane) who was one of our close friends. My husband went into the bar area to pour out the drinks as we sat to the side, chatting. Suddenly, a violent breeze swept down the whole length of the bar area, making us shiver. Alan got up to check that no windows or doors had been inadvertently left open but returned, satisfied that all was as it should be. However, another gust caught us and Jane asked if we could move as it was a little chilly! To humour her, we moved tables, sitting in front of the bar where hubby was still sorting out drinks. When he shouted out, we all jumped up to see what was wrong.
“A beer bottle’s just jumped off the shelf right in front of me!” he cried.
Never one to lie about such things, we believed him, although we pulled his leg a little! But as we all sat together, there was a crash as one beer bottle, followed by another, hit the side of the bottle skip kept behind the bar. No sooner had we composed ourselves from this, when we heard footsteps over the manhole cover in the corridor leading to the kitchen. Now this manhole was positioned in such a place that no-one could walk down the corridor without stepping on it, making a loud clang as they did so. It served as a useful warning when waitresses were hurrying along, carrying plates of hot food. Both men jumped up to investigate whilst we women sat, hearts thumping, wondering who or what was coming down the corridor. The men returned after a thorough search of the downstairs area, having found no traces of anyone.By now, we were all beginning to feel a little tense; little did we know that there was more to come.
After-hours drinks were normally limited to one or two, but this evening it was deemed necessary that we needed another one or two to calm our nerves! Sipping our fresh drinks, we sat quietly, instinctively waiting for something else to happen. We weren’t disappointed….
The main dining area, or family room as it was known, had glass doors which were shut at night, once all the diners had left and the staff had cleaned it thoroughly, ready for the following morning. In the dark, it was a strangely eery place and not many of us liked to go down there alone. As our little group were sat, the hairs on the back of my neck began to rise. I could hear the sounds of laughter, people chatting, cutlery chinking – just like we heard during normal working hours. Except it was now nearly 2.00 am and we had no diners in! I listened for a few seconds, not saying anything but out of the corner of my eye, I could see Jane listening intently, her ear cocked towards the family room. She caught my eye.
“Can you hear that? There are people eating!” she whispered
“It sounds like a party going on”, I whispered back.
We needn’t have bothered whispering. The others too had heard the strange sounds and once again, the valiant men made their way down to the pitch black family room. The minute they pulled the door open, the noises stopped. Once again, everyone present had witnessed the events, there could be no questioning anyone’s story.
So, you might think that that was the end of this particular evening’s events but the best was saved til last. This time, only my husband was witness to what occurred but no-one doubted what he saw…
Seated back at our table, hugging our drinks and quietly discussing what had taken place that evening, my husband just happened to glance down the length of the bar towards the stone fireplace – and told us at once that he had just seen a pair of glowing eyes, which he said were very similar to that of a wolf (not an animal we have here in the UK any longer) They were visible in the dark of the pub then vanished as quickly as they came.
By the time we left the pub late into the night, we were all looking over our shoulders and certainly not envying Alan and Sue, who lived on the premises – and whose accommodation had also seen sightings and strange events.
But more of that later when I’ll recount what happened after the sad death of a staff member and also what happened to the Swordfish itself.
Who wants to be queen?
Cow fighting - now that’s not your everyday tourist attraction but there we were in spectacular Saas Fee, in the Valais region of Switzerland, this event was a national favourite so why not head down to the pastures to see what it was all about? So that’s what we did …
Saas Fee is an idyllic little town, nestled deep in a glacier valley amid flower-filled meadows and towering mountains. We had no idea just how beautiful it was here - I won the holiday and it turned out to be one of the best weeks we have spent abroad!
Bring on the cows …
A traditional Swiss event, cow fighting pits cow against cow (females only). And don’t worry, it’s not so much fighting as a pushing and shoving contest! This strange but popular event began back in the 1920′s and since then, the Valais region hosts a series of cow fights during the summer months, known as “combats des reines” (queen fights). Cows can enter the arena from the age of three. As they gain in weight, stature and experience, their fighting skills improve, up until retirement at the age of 11.
The organisers appoint five jurors to preside over the various rounds and these jurors order cows that are scared off by their opponents, or who give up too easily, to be taken out of the arena. The bravest and most aggressive score the most points and go through to the finals and these winners then go on to the regional final.
Inside the ring, five adjudicators or “rabatteures” armed with sticks bring the cows together for matches and drive away the losers. There is always the risk of being stampeded by the cows so doctors and vets are posted around the arena, in case of any mishaps.
The regional bouts attract crowds of more than 4,000 people and it’s a family day out for many. Hospitality tents are set up around the arena selling traditional sausages and raclette (melted cow’s milk cheese with potatoes). There’s a holiday atmosphere in the sunny meadows, a chance to meet up with friends and family and a great deal of entertainment, courtesy of the Swiss bovines!
The breeders, however, are less relaxed about the event as they watch nervously from the sidelines as their cows either put up or are made to get out. It’s considered a great honour for your cow to be crowned queen and so competition is friendly but tough!

The final competition of the season to find the queen is held in Aproz in May and draws more than 10,000 spectators showing its huge popularity! It’s the highlight of the year for many Valais farmers and an event not to be missed! To win is the pinnacle of a breeder’s career and one that isn’t forgotten.
The locals call these contests “jabbings” rather than fights! The purpose? Cows naturally fight amongst themselves to determine dominance in the herd and become the herd “queen”. The breeds used for these contests are Eringers and Herens, both part of Swiss daily life. These small black and brown-bodies animals stamp their hooves, kicking up the dust, bellow loudly and then lock horns with their opponent. It’s all a test of their strength and stamina - a lot of pushing and shoving goes on but no violence.
In an official contest, there may be as many as 40 cows entered, normally with 10 cows allowed in the ring at a time. The “fighting” is all done to order with judges presiding over the bouts. These bouts are broken down by weight and age classes to make for fair play and only cows that are giving milk are allowed to enter. Several fights can take place simultenously in the ring, making for a good show. It’s a noisy event, with the resonant clanging of the huge cow bells which each animal wears round its neck on a thick leather collar.
A traditional Swiss event, cow fighting pits cow against cow (females only). And don’t worry, it’s not so much fighting as a pushing and shoving contest! This strange but popular event began back in the 1920′s and since then, the Valais region hosts a series of cow fights during the summer months, known as “combats des reines” (queen fights). Cows can enter the arena from the age of three. As they gain in weight, stature and experience, their fighting skills improve, up until retirement at the age of 11.
The organisers appoint five jurors to preside over the various rounds and these jurors order cows that are scared off by their opponents, or who give up too easily, to be taken out of the arena. The bravest and most aggressive score the most points and go through to the finals and these winners then go on to the regional final.
Inside the ring, five adjudicators or “rabatteures” armed with sticks bring the cows together for matches and drive away the losers. There is always the risk of being stampeded by the cows so doctors and vets are posted around the arena, in case of any mishaps.
The regional bouts attract crowds of more than 4,000 people and it’s a family day out for many. Hospitality tents are set up around the arena selling traditional sausages and raclette (melted cow’s milk cheese with potatoes). There’s a holiday atmosphere in the sunny meadows, a chance to meet up with friends and family and a great deal of entertainment, courtesy of the Swiss bovines!
The breeders, however, are less relaxed about the event as they watch nervously from the sidelines as their cows either put up or are made to get out. It’s considered a great honour for your cow to be crowned queen and so competition is friendly but tough!
This unplanned event turned out to be one of the highlights of the week, certainly the most unusual thing we encountered during our stay in Saas Fee and something not to be missed by anyone travelling to this beautiful and unspoilt part of Switzerland.
Matroyshka – Russia’s most Recognisable Souvenir!

“Matroyshka” – the word may not be instantly recognisable but there can’t be many people who aren’t aware of Russia’s most famous and endearing souvenir – better known as the exquisite nesting dolls. With a history spanning over a century, the Matroyshka has become a symbol of motherhood from the very heart of Russia.
The craftsman who created the very first Matroyshka dolls in the late 1890′s was one Vasily Zviozdochkin, at the Children’s Education Workshop in Sergiev Possad near Moscow. This Workshop brought together a handful of professional artists and skilled craftsmen who were devoted to preserving Russian peasant crafts. This doll was made in such an innovative way that it could be taken apart to reveal smaller dolls hidden away inside one another – the smallest figure representing the baby of the family!
Before the Russian Revolution, the name “Matroyshka” was a popular choice for girls, as it was derived from the Latin root “mater” meaning mother. The name was associated with the image of a healthy mother figure and subsequently the word became a natural choice when it came to naming the nesting dolls.
The first Matroshka doll was painted in watercolours by the artist Sergey Malutin and he painted a peasant family, the largest of which he dressed in colourful scarf, apron and sarafan, the traditional Russian costume of a Russian peasant mother. He also painted this figure cradling a black rooster in her arms. Poultry have always been treated as pets by Russian villagers, so this was a popular choice by Sergey! The faces painted on these early Matroyshka dolls were oval with quite large heads, making the face dominate the whole body and so the dolls appear quite primitive.
The remaining seven wooden pieces which nestled inside this larger figure represented other siblings, each painted carrying a different household item, such as a broom, a bowl of porridge, a sickle and a baby brother! This was the smallest piece, which couldn’t be taken apart and was painted as a baby wrapped in a quilt to show the warm, nurturing facet of the dolls.
This set was known as the “Rooster Girl” and has been reproduced countless times since its first crafting. You can find the original in the Toy Museum at Sergiev Possad.
Besides these traditional designs such as these, the Matroyshka dolls were painted with scenes from Russian fairy tales and legends, Russian architecture, together with religious and historic scenes. Iconography is still popular with sets depicting Lenin, political figures and even celebrities! Each intricate design is unique in its own individual way and is a work of art to be admired and treasured.
So, how exactly are these beautifully crafted dolls made? Well, the basic techniques have remained unchanged over the years, as skilled artisans craft the dolls from aspen, birch or alder. The trees are left to season for two years in the air until they are judged ready for carving on turning lathes. No plans or precise measurements are used, as each doll created is born out of the craftsman’s keen eye and skill with his tools.
Many different styles of Matroyshka are available, each different from the other. There are those from the region of Semionovo which are famous for containing many pieces, the largest to date consisting of seventy two dolls! This piece was made in 1970, stands three feet tall and is dedicated to Lenin’s birthday.
Polkhovsky Maidan, which is situated to the south-west of Nizhny Novgorod, is home to another style of Matroyshka. The first doll was made here in the 1930′s and today these dolls are still recognisable by their primitive peasant designs in bright greens, yellows, blues and crimsons. The flowering dog-rose was also considered a main element of the designs, as this flower was considered a symbol of femininity, love and motherhood.
There are many old sets still in existence in collections today and some of the most unusual depict the “boyars” or old Russian noblemen and these sets can fetch hefty sums of money when sold.
In old Russia, Matroyshkas were passed from one generation to another and today, they still remain an all-embracing symbol of Russian folk art. The dolls are still as popular today as they have ever been and are bought by tourists all over the world visiting Russia. Two Matroyshka were even created specially and taken into orbit on June 29th 1982 by Russian astronauts!
Today’s economic climate has made it harder for Russian craftsmen to buy the raw materials needed to continue creating these dolls, although there are still three main centres of production in Russia today – Sergiev Possad, Semionovo and Gorodezt. Here, craftsmen and women still produce the beautiful hand-crafted Matroyshka which really are unique works of art, capturing the imagination of all who see them. No trip to Russia seems complete without bringing home a set of these instantly recognisable nesting dolls.
Swordfish Shenanigans
Stories that one of our local pubs was haunted had been rife for many years but no-one had really been able to substantiate the claims. During the three years we worked there, however, my husband and I, together with our colleagues, witnessed enough to be able to confirm once and for all that there were definitely things going bump in the night (and day!)…..
The Swordfish was named after the Fairey Swordfish, a torpedo bomber which was used by the Fleet Air Arm of the Royal Navy here in the UK. The plane saw service at the airfield across the road from where the pub stood and RAF personnel were stationed around the area. Paintings of the planes were dotted around the rooms of the pub and were a talking point for the customers.
The pub nestled on a hill overlooking the beach and was an extremely popular venue. During the summer months, the garden was always crowded with families enjoying good food with a wonderful view across the Solent. The sailing fraternity were regular visitors, together with walkers, sightseers and locals. Wedding receptions were held here throughout the year, particular in the summer and the whole of December was a frenzy of Christmas parties and fun.
The pub was well known for giving the local teenagers their first taste of the working world and employed both waitresses and bar staff to cover the busy shifts. During the time we were there, our daughters also worked alongside us and it became our second home, we spent so many hours there!
My first strange encounter at the pub actually came before I started work there. My husband had been the resident dj there for some time and always worked the upstairs function room. On this particular morning, I had gone down to help him. None of the staff had arrived for work, the door at the top of the stairs to the function room was locked as normal and I sat in the window, waiting for him to come back up the fire escape stairs from the courtyard, where he was unloading some equipment. Hearing the sound of heavy footsteps coming up the main stairs, I called out to my husband, wondering why he had decided to come up that way. The footsteps continued so I looked throught the glass panel at the top of the door, to find there was no-one there. The hairs on the back of my neck rose and I legged it down the fire escape to find that the only people on site – my husband, the landlord and landlady – were all in the courtyard, chatting. A quick search revealed no-one else around and all the doors locked and bolted …..
Over the course of the next three years, there were numerous strange goings-on, many of which were witnessed by more than one person. One midweek morning, myself and the barman were the only ones working; he in the bar and myself in the dining area, finishing the preparations before opening the doors at 11.00 am. The kitchen staff were busy at the back of the pub and the two of us were enjoying a bit of banter as we worked. When the figure of a man in a grey RAF uniform appeared in front of the long bar then disappeared, neither of us moved for a split second, before we both rushed round to the bar area.
“Did you see that? Where did he come from?”
“Have you opened up early? It’s not eleven o’clock yet!”
“You know I’ve been stood here with you, there’s no way I’ve unlocked yet!”
“So where’s he gone…?”
The barman assumed that perhaps I had unlocked the doors early – I of course, thought the same of him. On checking, however, the doors were still firmly bolted. With the hairs on the back of our neck rising, we quickly checked the pub but realised that no-one had entered. Both of us knew what we had seen but tried to be rational. It was a little unnerving but exhilerating. One of our customers had casually slipped into a conversation some while back that he had seen a figure dressed in a WWII RAF uniform here in the bar and was quietly adamant that he had witnessed a ghostly visitation. That little snippet of information had lurked in the back of my mind since. Now this elusive figure had made a second appearance, this time to two of us! Needless to say, when we relayed this to the younger members of the staff, their reaction was a far cry from ours!
There were certain places in the pub which none of the younger staff would venture into on their own, such as the beer cellar. There were stories of strange noises and odd happenings in there and no amount of persuasion could coax the youngsters to venture in there alone.There was definitely a strange atmosphere in there and I myself heard many unexplained noises there. It wasn’t the kind of place you wanted to linger in …
Because it was so cold in the cellar, we laid out starters/sweets for the function parties on huge racks in there, all hygienically covered, ready for when the guests arrived. These starters were always carefully counted by the chef so that each guest had the correct starter/sweet and could be collected and served by waitresses. On several occasions, the plates were laid out ready but when we returned to collect them, one or two were missing. Working to a fine deadline, this could have been a disaster but the plates were often found in the oddest places, hidden away in the cellar! You might say that someone could have put them there for a prank but the staff working there were like one big family – we all pulled together, especially for functions as they could be quite stressful. No-one would think to pull a stunt on a function, it was unheard of. I myself had set out plates and been the only one working the function, only to return to fetch the starters and find one or two missing. We even took to locking the door when this happened more than once but still the plates went walkabout …..

















